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Race and interracial relationships

Every interracial couple would love to just be in love with each other without having to deal with all the questions that people have and all of the stereotypes that they are put under. Unfortunately, the race is not something you can avoid when it comes to certain cultures.

Every culture has its stigmas when it comes to dating someone who is not in the community. Even to this day, black women are questioned about the credibility they hold in the society just because they choose to be with a man from another ethnicity. This is sadly not a stereotype that only black women have to face. It is for this reason; we have come up with some interracial dating tips that would help out a couple who find themselves in a similar predicament.

1. COMMUNICATION
When it comes to interracial couples, the stereotypes are worse than usual. The sad thing is when even your close friends and dear family members start to stereotype or make insensitive jokes without realizing it. One way to push through it by communicating your feelings. Let your partner know what is bothering you, and what makes you happy. It is the foundation and basis of any strong relationship.

2. LOVE AND RESPECT
It is commonly said that love is necessary for any romantic relationship to function but, respect is just as important. By respecting your partner as an individual you show love for them as well. Accepting and appreciating the fact that your partner is their own person and has their own life can be liberating for the relationship.

3. ACCEPTANCE
We all have shortcoming as humans. We are not supposed to be perfect, and neither is our partner. It is very important to understand that they might not like everything we do. They might hate something you love or vice-versa. If taken in the correct manner, this can help strengthen your relationship. You should try things that your partner likes, and so should your partner. You would be surprised by the results.

4. SPACE
No matter how close a couple might be, everybody needs their space. Everyone deserves some time to just themselves where they can be alone with their thoughts. Some people take this negatively. They think that their partner wanting to spend time alone means that they do not want to be with them. It is not true. Some people even go as far as to say that their partner might be cheating on them while all they did was want to spend some time alone. This mentality is toxic and should be discarded immediately.

These were the tips that should help a couple who are in an interracial relationship. Paying attention to tiny details plays a huge part in making a relationship work in a healthy manner. Everything comes down to taking things easy and keeping communication open at all times. Trusting your partner and giving them the space they need will help your relationship to prosper, and help you turn into a power couple that people love to be.

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Interracial Dating in UK

Are you aware of the fact that United Kingdom has got the highest number of interracial couples and interracial dating in the UK is on a constant rise since the introduction of online dating platforms. Interracial dating is no more a taboo. No one raises an eyebrow when seeing an interracial couple walk hand in hand into a club, bar or restaurant.

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Studies suggest that almost one out of every tenth person in the UK has been into an interracial relationship. Analysis of 2011 census data also suggests that interracial marriages and relationships have become more common.

The reason for the rise in interracial dating

Education and globalization

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Education is one of the main reasons for the rise in interracial relationships, people once educated and working in multi-national companies are more open towards being in a relationship with someone from a different ethnicity.

Migration patterns

No doubt that the UK has got a large share of migrants who have been working and living there since a long time now. The peoples who have migrated from different countries to the UK were found to be more tolerant and respectful towards other communities as well.

Curiosity

Finding a partner from different race and community has got so easy that youngsters were found to get their self-involved in an interracial relationship out of curiosity. People are getting more open towards knowing more about other community and the interracial relationship is not a taboo anymore.

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Some facts on interracial relationships in the UK

  • Till 2011 alone, approximately 2.3 million people were living as a part of interracial couples.
  • Apart from the high number of interracial relationships, White British have managed to segregate themselves from the interracial relationships.
  • People from mixed ethnic groups were most likely to be found in the interracial relationship
  • Biggest differences in sexes were found to be in Chinese, where women were twice likely to get themselves into the interracial relationship as compared to Chinese men.

Fun Things about Interracial Relationships

Be a part of the change

We are living in a time where radical groups are killing people on the basis of caste and religion, this world needs more people like you who are broad-minded and people who can think above race and religion.

Interracial relationships are working as a bridge to connect people from the different cultural backgrounds and it is giving you the opportunity to understand and respect other’s faith.

Breaking stereotypes

People have bad habits of stereotyping everything, people belonging to every ethnicity are labeled with stereotypes, no matter if you are Asian, African or a European; people are going to stereotype you according to their past experience with your community and religion.

Interracial relationships give you the capability to challenge the stereotypical mentality of society; you can prove them that your behavior is as unique as theirs.

A lot of learning

If you are fascinated by the learning different cultural values and like to have in-depth knowledge about other cultures as well then the interracial relationship is going to be the best experience for you.

I remember my first date with an Indian when he took me to an Indian food carnival to make me aware of their eating patterns, and I was seriously impressed with the quality of food and spices Indians have.  That experience made me have more interested in interracial dating and I have started dated guys from different cultures to grasp the best things from them.

Could have never got this easy

Before 2001 interracial relationships were not very common because of the obvious reasons, I mean I wanted to date someone from a different religion but I was in no mood to date anyone from my office and I was left with very few options. Online interracial dating has made things way too easy, now you can just hop on the specialty website and arrange a date for yourself from the very large database.

Online dating can be casually used to find people from different background, I love to hear their stories and know more about their cultural values. I have found some of my dearest friends through online dating platforms.

Conclusion:

If you are still wondering if you should try for the interracial dating then I would just suggest you a simple solution. Just create a nice profile, arrange a coffee date with random strangers and spend some quality time with him/her. It’s okay to hang out with someone even if you are not interested in a relationship. You might end up finding your life partner in those hangouts with random people from the different cultural background.

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CELEBRATING INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS ON LOVING DAY

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On June 12, the country will be celebrating a little known holiday
popularly referred to as the “Loving Day” on June 12th.

Now, if this is your first time hearing about Loving Day… shame on you! Especially if you’re an interracial dater or been in any form of interracial relationship. You wouldn’t have had this opportunity if it weren’t for Mildred and Richard Loving! While some families have found no fault with interracial dating, others think it’s a taboo that shouldn’t even be considered.

WHAT’S THE HISTORY

It’s crucial to learn the history that paved the way for people to enjoy interracial love and the freedom to interracial marriage.

This white man/black woman couple was arrested on the charge of breaking Virginia’s 1924 Racial Integrity Act shortly after they returned back home to the state of Virginia from Washington D.C. where they had a secret wedding. The lovebirds had to plea bargain in order to prevent imprisonment. This led to them being banished from their adored state of Virginia – the place where they’d both spent their whole life.

They lived in exile, separated from their family, friends and loved ones, for years before making the decision to finally stand up for their rights. Holding to the fact that Virginia’s law was unconstitutional, the lovebirds took their case to the United States Supreme Court. And fortunately, on June 12, 1967, the ban placed on interracial marriage was lifted not just in Virginia, but all over the country.

This life-changing Supreme Court decision changed America. Every change in the world requires a catalyst and the lovebirds were brave enough to ignite the spark that lit a fire in courtrooms and lifted the law that refrained interracial lovers from being with each other.

As a way to honor the two and their determination, most people have called for the creation of an official U.S. government-recognized holiday known as the “Loving Day” which will be annually celebrated on June 12th.

We aren’t the only ones who think it’s really important to recognize Loving Day though. In fact, there’s an organization known as LovingDay.org that focuses on celebrating the beauty of interracial marriage and, especially, trying to skyrocket the need to make Loving Day a national-level event.

Annually, they sponsor Loving Day celebrations all over the country to celebrate the courageous journey of Mildred and Richard Loving and the diversity of interracial dating, which was made possible by the Lovings and their fight. You can support their cause of building multicultural communities by gracing them with an attendance at one of the Loving Day events in major cities like Washington D.C or New York.

Even if you’re not able to attend an event on June 12th we do strongly suggest doing something special with your mate to show your appreciation for the Lovings that day because if you got married interracially or if you’re still dating, it simply wouldn’t have been possible without these incredible trailblazers. Make sure you take the time to thank them by honoring their legacy.

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Mixed Dating: How to maximise your chances of finding a lover

If you are one of those people out there who are finding it hard to meet a lover on the interracial dating scene, making a few changes to your lifestyle could be just what you need. What are those changes? Here are 7 great things you can do today which will maximise your chances of finding your dream lover.

  1. Sign up to interracial dating or mixed dating sites– Apart from going to the club, signing up to a dating site is one of the best ways to maximise your chances of finding a lover. Not only does it give you access to many people at the same time but you can change the setting to only show you people close to you eliminating the distance barrier. It is very easy to get started and all you have to do is set up a profile, upload a picture and start chatting with matches.
  2. Sign up to the gym– The gym isn’t just a good place to keep fit; it is also a wonderful place to meet like minded people. You can sign up for classes and meet plenty of new people in the process.
  3. Switch your everyday routine up a bit– We all have a favourite place where we usually have our lunch or coffee. Instead of going to the same place over and over again each and every day, try changing things up and going to a different place with a different environment and surrounding. Who knows, you might meet you ideal lover there.
  4. Go out more– If sitting at home watching soaps, reality television and films are your thing over the weekend it is time to chance that. If your friends are having a get together or a birthday party, tagging along doesn’t hurt at all and you will maximise your chances of meeting new people and potentially finding love.
  5. Smile and don’t forget to make eye contact– With everyone stuck in their own bubble and the busy lives we have, not a lot of people take the time to observe their surroundings. They say “when you smile, the whole world smiles with you” give that a try next time you are out. Smile and make eye contact with people, even if it does lead to anything it is a nice gesture and also a good chance at finding love. You never know you might be smiling back and making eye contact with you.
  6. Try to spend time with your work mates– If you spend plenty of time with your workmates, chances are they will introduce you to their friends when you tag along with them for some after work drink. This increases your chances of meeting a lover by about 15%.
  7. Finding new hobbies– Anyone out there looking for interracial or black women white men love would be happy to know that love can sometimes come by finding people who share the same interests as you. It makes the dialogue on the first date very easy and you are both participating in a hobby you all love and enjoy.

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4 Wrong Reasons For Interracial Dating.


Attitudes towards interracial dating are so progressive that some may prefer to exclusively date from a different race. But are they dating interracially for good reasons?

There are a number of reasons that I’ll advise you on why you should not date interracially, including gaining social status. Dating interracially for wrong and misguided reasons will lead to problems you won’t run away from.

If you want to get into interracial dating because of the following reasons, save yourself the trouble, please don’t!

1.To gain social status.

Some people from minority social groups look for mates from a dominant culture to upgrade their social status. Although today racial minorities are empowered to succeed in the society on their own, some people of color may feel the need to win a spouse from the dominant race to fit into the cooperate level.

No one should opt for dating another race to gain status recognition. If Barack Obama won the presidential seat with a black woman on his side, it is then not necessary to date interracially to gain upward mobility.

2. Everyone is doing it, it’s the current trend.

“Everyone seems to be going the interracial way, why shouldn’t I?” If that’s your big reason for dating someone from a different race, hold your horses.

Don’t proceed to date interracially because your colleagues, friends, and relatives are doing that and you don’t want to be the odd one out. Your dating life should not conform to what is trending or to what everyone is doing. The preferences and chemistry you feel towards someone, whether in your own race or a different race shall face a lot of challenges and if one gets in such because it is trending they might not be able to cope with them.

3. To follow or go against your parents’ wish

Many parents outrightly tell their children which racial groups they approve of them dating and which one they forbid them from dating.  Don’t be pressured to follow your parents’ racist beliefs, but at the same time, don’t marry from the disputed race just because you want to act rebellious to your parents.

If your preference about race differs with that of your parents, it’s thoughtful to discuss the issue with them instead of dragging someone you will end up hurting because you just want to please your parents or go against them. That could be very insensitive on your part.

4. To end the long chain of heartbreaks in your love life

You have dated a number of losers, cheaters and deadbeats. They all belonged to your race so your opinion is all men from this race are bad so you imagine you will make a better love story dating someone from a different race. That’s because losers only come from one race, right? If only it were that simple.

The solution to your romance problem is not crossing the racial line but examining why you have been constantly attracting unworthy partners.

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What Are the Challenges of Interracial Dating in a Relationship?

While funny looks and occasionally rude people may test a casual interracial relationship, people will really start to get annoying when you actually decide to commit to each other and let them know your plans.  For some reason, this provokes people and even the nicest of friends and relatives may start to get weird.

Here are a few challenges you should prepare for and some graceful ways of responding that minimize conflict.

1.Some people may not understand that you’re together.

Call it a quirk but many people are quick to assume that a black and white couple, or Asian and Latino couple are not “together” but might be friends or something.  This isn’t really hardcore racism, so there’s no need to get upset.  But DO be firm and remind everybody that this IS your boyfriend and girlfriend and that you’re not shy or embarrassed by it.  Your partner will be glad to see you so confident and in control!

2. Your partner is going to get hit on by other guys/girls.  It’s not a racial thing.

Okay, chalk this one up to paranoia.  Sometimes one person in an interracial relationship may get really angry when another person hits on their boyfriend/girlfriend—you know, because this rude person is ASSUMING you can’t possibly be together since you’re of a different race!

Believe it or not, it’s not a racial thing.  Some couples are too quick to become defensive.  We must understand that your partner is always going to be desired and looked at by other people regardless of race…because that’s just human nature.  There are plenty of lonely singles out there and sometimes they take a chance.  Just be honored that your partner is so beautiful/handsome and then remind the other person that this beauty is taken.

Sometimes friends and friends of your partner may also exhibit very “soft” racist attitudes – especially when it comes to the assumption that your black boyfriend/girlfriend should be with a black “sister” – and that the white girl is stealing a brother!

All that talk is ridiculous and totally unfair to the individual who may simply be attracted to a person for personal reasons – and it has nothing to do with status or symbol or anything like that.

3.Some people want you to play teacher.

The notion that you have to answer all these tough questions about interracial dating is sort of ridiculous and not exactly a PC attitude.  But don’t be surprised if family and friends ask you invasive and borderline stupid questions like “Do you only date Asians?” or “What does your family think of you dating a black person?” or “I dated a Native American once…”

These are all silly questions but usually they’re not given in a spirit of hostility.  Instead, the other person is just awkwardly trying to bond with you, in a strange way, but still an earnest effort.  Try to be respectful, but at the same time, don’t be dragged into a debate on race.  You love your partner because of who they are, not because of a political statement.

Don’t let people intimidate you, even if they’re your friends and family.  You and your partner deserve respect and you can act gracefully and yet be firm in your opinions at the same time.

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Dos and Don’ts for Interracial Dating: Tips for western man dating Filipino women

Let’s face it, Filipina and interracial dating in general can be a rather controversial topic. But it can also be a really fun one. It all comes down to the way you look at it and the type of experience that you want to have from this.
That being said, most of the time there will be some do’s and don’ts that you have to keep in mind in regards to Filipina dating. The idea here is to be focused and calm, because these tips can help you increase your dating chances with the right girl.

Avoid taking curiosity as a personal thing

Remember that she is not knowing you at all. So if you want to date here, you have to let her know you. This means taking a lot of time exploring who you are, what you do and so on. Things like this are not going to be very simple right off the bat.
Understand her, don’t pressure her though

Putting pressure on her is not a good idea. Let her be the way she is. That can be a whole lot of fun and it can bring in front some really interesting and unique experiences. It’s going to be worth it for sure, and in the end that can be a delightful thing. It’s important to understand her and not pressure her at all.
See if there are concerns

Talking and proper communication are crucial here. As long as you talk with her and get to know her in a true manner, results can be really good. It’s going to be worth it for sure, so try to focus on value and quality as much as you can. As you will see, it’s definitely going to bring in front some outstanding solutions.

Value her opinions

Not listening to her is a mistake. Every Filipina has a good mind and sense of ideas, so try to harness that. Listen to her, understand her motives and her motivation. But keep your opinions to yourself, unless they are extremely important!

Teach her new things

Of course, let her ask for something like this. The idea is to know what she wants and to adapt yourself to the situation when the time comes. It’s not going to be an easy feat, but it’s certainly going to be worth it in the end.
Stay clear from race differences

Every Filipina dislikes this talk when dating a person from other country. It’s safe to say that the race talk is not pleasant at all. Most of the time it ends in fights, so you might as well try to avoid all of that.

The good thing is you can use all these great ideas fast and the results will surely be outstanding. Adapt to this and make sure that you avoid the sensitive topics. There’s a lot of stuff to talk about, so talking about something insensitive will just be a waste of your time!

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6 Ways for a White Guy to Date a Black Woman

Are you a white man who is attracted to black women but have problems approaching them? Honestly, approaching a black woman is no different from approaching any other woman. Here are a few black women white men dating tips on how to win that black woman over.

Ask her out

So, you have never dated a black lady in the past but are now interested in asking one out, how about a line like, “Hey gorgeous, are you free this evening? Maybe we could grab coffee or drinks or something?” She is a woman like any other. Attracted to a woman? Ask her out.  It all has to start somewhere.

Don’t pretend you’re black

The next crucial step will be focusing on being the real self. Many guys feign to be a man that they think a woman wants, which is a recipe for disaster in many different ways. Do not forget the fact that you will have to fake that “other” personality for the duration of your relationship, which is a lot of work and not much fun either. You’ve met a woman who is attracted to white men; keep her attraction by remaining white. Try and avoid acting in some other way.

Have an open-mind

When dating someone from a different race, it is so natural to have a different opinion when discussing various topics. When in a relationship with someone from a different background, be ready to come across ideas that may agree or not agree with what you believe in. In such a case, resist the urge to think your way is automatically ‘right’ and theirs is ‘wrong’.  Once you start to get to know the lady for who she is, you start to find out that cultures are different in interesting ways. You might even learn something new.

Be truthful.

One mistake the majority of men make when going into relationships is to pretend they are looking for something serious. In most cases a man is looking for a short relationship; to be blunt, sex. All you want is to add a black woman to your sex resume. Be honest, you might end up liking each other or even getting a lifetime partner!

See her as a woman first.

Try to avoid seeing this as some racial science experiment. You’re on a date, with a lady like any other. Make the woman feel you like her for who she is. She will want to know you find her attractive so make her feel as if, at least for that moment in time, you find her the most alluring female in the room. Like any other woman, she’ll read everything you’re thinking from your body language. But it’s so much better if you can honestly give her the message that, of all the beautiful women present, she is the one you find the most desirable.

Interracial relationships are often the most fun and bonding. By using these tips, you may find yourself getting the kind of life partner we all want.

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Finding Love In Today’s World For Interracial Dating

 

It may sound like a never ending task but it doesn’t have to be that way, and if you are into interracial dating then you can find exactly what you want with ease. The truth is that dating has evolved quite significantly through the years. This means that there is truly something and someone for everyone. So no matter what your niche may be or if that includes specific types of relationships or things such as interracial dating, you can find it.

The first thing to keep in mind is that you want to start to hang out where people you may be interested in do. By spending time with people who fit your ideal criteria, you have a much better chance at meeting them. This is where being very clear on what you want can help you to find it. In this day and age where online dating is so prevalent, it’s much easier to find love fitting your own unique criteria.

Use This As Your First Major Stepping Stone To Finding Love

Start by using a bigger online site and then narrowing down your criteria. In many instances you can focus on race or culture which can help you to narrow the playing field. Don’t let this be your only criteria though for there is so much more to a person than just their race—it does make for a good starting point though if you happen to be somebody who has interest or attraction in somebody of a different race than you. At least get started by focusing on this criteria but then you can keep going from there.

Better yet you can go to some very streamlined and specific interracial dating apps or websites that happen to be focused on interracial dating. This is a great way to start off right and focus on something that really intrigues you. From there you obviously need to narrow it down to ensure that you are compatible. When you focus on race it’s more than that when it comes to finding love. This is where it’s good and suggested to be selective so that you are absolutely sure to get what you want.

It may not always be easy initially but you have to be clear and honest with yourself about what you want. If you are somebody who is truly interested in interracial dating then go for it. This is your opportunity to change the landscape of your love life forever and start to really focus on what you want.

With online dating and very targeted dating opportunities overall, you have a great chance at this. Be honest about what you want but then go in with an open mind. If you want somebody in a different race that’s great, but see what else lies beneath the surface.

You just might find somebody who you initially thought wouldn’t be a match who is. There is so much to gain and so many wonderful people to meet and if you use this as your first and most important starting platform then you can only find love that much easier. This is a different day and way of dating, so focus on interracial dating and use this to help you in finding love in the best way possible from here.

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How To Try Interracial Dating Initially

 

It may be a concept that seems so far beyond you. It may be that you simply aren’t sure of how to get started. The truth is that interracial dating doesn’t have to be such a big deal if you go into it ready for something new and exciting. You might find the love of your life. You may find out a lot about yourself. You may find a whole new culture that you love to be a part of. No matter what you do though you find that getting started is the most important thing within interracial dating and that starts with you and how you approach this.

The first thing to do with this type of dating is to open up your mind to the possibilities that lie ahead. Perhaps you have been somebody who has always dated within your own race. There’s not necessarily anything wrong with this. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, but rather that you have always just dated a certain type of person. You are about to blow that out of the water. You are about to meet some really cool great people who are totally different than you. So getting yourself mentally prepared is often the most important part of this journey.

How You Approach This Will Change Everything

Then it’s time to put yourself out on the best dating websites. Nearly every dating website has filters that you can adjust so that you meet people from all different walks of life. Beyond that though you want to try to seek out some of the newer or niche websites. If interracial dating is something that you are open to then cater your search accordingly. There are some awesome sites out there which will help you to find people of different races, of different cultures, and of different backgrounds. This can make your search easier and then you can get into the fun dating part which is great.

You may find that you have to prepare your loved ones for this change, but that’s really up to you. This is a new way of dating and just like anything else sometimes your loved ones have a hard time embracing your change. That’s their issue and not yours, but just go in knowing that there may be some initial negativity surrounding this type of dating. That should not at all influence your decision, but just go in prepared for it.

What you will find is that interracial dating can be a really wonderful and exciting thing, but you first have to get into the right mindset and readiness for it. Ignore the negativity and know that this is a very common way of dating in this day and age. You will find true happiness if you go in with an open mind and ready for the possibilities that interracial dating can hold for you.

There can be much happiness that lies ahead so just be sure that you are ready and that you get started with the right attitude and mindset. You are going to change the landscape of your love life forever and that’s a really wonderful thing in the end, so try it and see how amazing interracial dating can be for you.